Fear is something that is rarely spoken of openly, but that we all feel every day. For some, it's about facing a challenge that must be met to live life to the fullest. What category would you put yourself in? Spiritually speaking, what you feel and think attracts similar energy and outcomes. I know someone that has a terrible fear of spiders. I noticed that spiders find their way to her almost every day. She could be swimming in a pool, and there will be a spider, ignoring the rest of us, but trying it's best to swim to her. Have you ever heard of such a thing? She's an expert on the subject. She knows about every spider in every Country and what they can do. Her fear attracts the very things that she is terrified of. What are your worries doing to you? What are you attracting in your life that you fear the most? Fear is an emotion. A strong one. Any feelings that you focus on that you give a lot of importance to will become manifested in some way or another. It's the law of attraction in motion, being given permission to manifest itself in your life. No one wants to manifest their worst fears. But many of us do. As a reader and guide for many years, it's been something that I have seen happen, time and time again. It's the exact opposite of what we want, But, because we spend so much time and energy imagining it, we manifest it. Those that put even their energy and time into focusing on what they have instead of what they don't have more positive outcomes. Your life is a reflection of what you think and feel. "You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, 'I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along." You must do the thing you think you cannot do."
HOW TO OVERCOME FEAR IN LIFE
Start with identifying the monster in the closet. That's right. We all have something hidden in the depth of our being that serves to limit us and keep us in check. It reminds us of what we cannot do or say. It goes to great lengths to tell us of our failures, past hurts, and pain. Its sole purpose is to keep us locked in place, enslaved to the idea of what can go wrong and how the consequences of our actions will inevitably lead to more pain than we can handle, The key is to start by identifying the fear. You must first learn to face your fears meaning. Look at them dead in the eye and don't deviate. Though they may scream at you. Though they may make all kinds of noise, remember. It's just fear. Learn to identify precisely what you are dealing with. “If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles." The art of war - Sun Tzu
HOW TO FACE YOUR FEARS
Imagine yourself walking from your bed, it's dark. The noise coming from the closet in your mind is growing. Grab the knob and turn it. Now open the door. It's that simple. Fear itself is not a danger to you. The potential risk and danger is what causes the pain. It's akin to being afraid of the sound of an air raid siren. The siren itself does not cause pain. It's the promise of what comes next that is scaring you. So for the first step, try to see where it's coming from and what it is that you are hearing.
HOW TO DEAL WITH FEAR
Fear is a process that physically begins in an area of the brain called the amygdala. Its sole purpose is to protect you from perceived danger. Notice I did not say actual danger? Rather, perceived danger. It's a crucial element of evolution that has kept humans alive when they were mingling with dinosaurs in the lost world or slaying orcs in middle earth. The truth is, without the fear mechanism, we would do things like drive through red lights, jump out of airplanes before they actually stopped, just to avoid having to wait deboarding. We would do all manner of foolish things. Fear keeps us all in check and alive. The trouble is that the very thing that helps us can also harm us. For some of its genetics, for others, it's life experiences. Especially at a very young age that has conditioned some to have a highly sensitive amygdala. It does not mean that you are now condemned to a life of fear and anxiety. It means that you may be predisposed to being much more afraid than you should be." Knowledge is power" - Sir Francis Bacon
HOW TO OVERCOME FEAR OF PEOPLE
The first step in overcoming the fear of people is to identify the person that you are afraid of and why. Is it an ex? Are they someone that you love but can't bring yourself to approach? Start with rationalizing your fear. Use the same mind that helps break down math problems to help you figure out what you need to do next. Logic is your friend. Emotions are not. When you remove emotions from the equation, things become so much more clear. Break down the risks vs. benefits. Create a list of each. Then prioritize what YOU want. Not what you fear but instead what you need and want to be happy. You'll soon realize that fear is in the way of your happiness, goals, and destiny. "Limits like fear are often an illusion" - Michael Jordan
HOW TO OVERCOME FEAR OF FAILURE
The fear of failure is by far the most common fear of them all. It's a real boogeyman. Fear of failure is standard with every person, culture, and belief system. The bible speaks of wasted talents. There are numerous stories of people who, while laying on their deathbeds, bemoaned lost opportunities and wished that they had taken more chances. The fear of failure is not so bad when you put in the right context. It can motivate you to do what other kinds of fear are keeping you from doing. Sometimes you need to choose what fear to pay attention too. Do you pay attention to the fear of acting or to the fear of missing out on an opportunity for greater happiness? Fear is crucial for our survival. It's also an essential part of what motivates us. The fear of failure is a reasonable fear to have. Those who don't experience it enough are often satisfied with lives that are at best described as unfulfilled. "There is no heavier burden than an unfulfilled potential." — Charles Schulz
THE BENEFITS OF FACING YOUR FEARE
To start, it will build your self-confidence. Fearful people lack confidence in all areas of their lives. If you lack confidence, you will not reach your potential. Facing your fears, whether great or small, will always result in a greater sense of joy, achievement, and happiness. There are a few exceptions. There are risks with everything. The only sure-fire to avoid them is to accept a life that is boring, unfulfilled, and essentially a series of wasted opportunities. Facing your fear will always result in more significant growth for you. It may not always guarantee success, but living in fear will ensure failure. When Thomas Edison was working on the lightbulb, he tried and failed a 1000 times! When a reporter asked, how does it feel to fail 1000 times? Edison replied, "I didn't fail 1,000 times. The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps."
EXERCISES TO OVERCOME FEAR
Try. Try again. Repeat. Again and again. Whatever you fear, take small steps towards it. Are you afraid of speaking to a person in particular? Try approaching someone else who doesn't matter quite as much. Practise. Are you afraid of flying? Go to an airport. Watch as people file in. Watch as the planes land and take off. There are great meditation exercises that can be extremely helpful in getting you to a place where you are less connected to your emotional self and much more connected to your true self. A great one is the WIM HOF method. A simple breathing technique that anyone with lungs can do, it doesn't require any spiritual beliefs, and it will help you feel grounded and closer to your true self within a matter of minutes. As you gain ground in conquering your fear, you'll be able to get it out of the driver's seat of your life and in the back seat where it belongs. You'll find that being in charge of your emotions and decisions is enjoyable, rewarding, and how life should be lived. To the fullest! "Fear does not go away by itself. You have to confront your fear, mold it, then learn to control it in its own irrational reality. Every human being has the power to do just that. To go deep within and confront your inner being is a powerful act. - The Iceman Wim Hof
HOW TO OVERCOME FEAR OF DEATH
Don't waste a single day of your life. Utilize every opportunity, love fully, and completely. Be free with your heart and your feelings. Don't hold grudges, forgive as quickly as you get angry, let bygones be bygones. Don't harm as you were hurt. Be aware that your life has an expiry date. Don't waste a moment fearing death. Look at it as something that you will one day experience, as billions before you have. There is nothing to fear except a life wasted living in fear. The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time. - Mark Twain